Women share stories of resettlement

A group of women from Syria and Iraq reached out to manaaki their Kiwi women friends and to share personal stories of challenge, determination and positive change.

L to R: Maureen Fox, Monique Allen, Oham Saeed, Pohswan Narayanan and Nusalba Alsiad

They invited a group of  women and children who had befriended and supported them, to join them for ‘a Taste of the Middle East’, a lunchtime event at Hutt Valley’s Knox Church in October. The guests came from all kinds of cultural backgrounds – Māori, Samoan, English, Iranian, Malaysian and Pākehā.

The Syrian and Iraqi women sang, performed a traditional dance and  provided their guests with sumptuous middle eastern kai. Those with confidence in their spoken English stood to talk about what they’d achieved in recent months thanks to people like their guests and with the support of organisations like Upper Hutt Multicultural Council.  E Tū Whānau supports the Upper Hutt Multicultural Council to run courses on resettlement and employment.

They also talked about their journey, what they’d learnt and ways they’d had grown since they and their families had arrived in New Zealand as either refugees or migrants.

Setting clear goals

Mona Yahy, who came to NZ as a Syrian refugee, is mother to three children, one of whom is deaf. Mona spoke eloquently of her experience.

“I knew no English when I came here. I was depressed and traumatised by the things I had experienced. I felt that everyone knew more than me but with the support of my husband and people like all of you here today, l  have continued to study English and I’m improving all the time. I had already learnt Arabic sign language but now I’ve learnt English sign language and my goal is to work with deaf children like my son. In the meantime, I volunteer at his school.”

Importantly, the women organised the event themselves. Some of the women came from families where women were not expected to engage with the outside world in any kind of project management so they grasped this opportunity with both hands and provided their guests with a wonderful experience.

Shared experiences

Hutt Valley community worker, Maureen Fox co-facilitates the Multicultural Council’s ‘Pathway to Employment’ courses. Maureen is Samoan and her husband is Ngāti Porou. Her family emigrated here in the 1950s and, like this current group of new New Zealanders, they had to grapple with a new language and a new culture.

“There were challenges but my mother had an English friend who helped her understand what was going on and that’s the role we can play with our friends here today,” said Maureen.

Monique Allen, Maureen’s friend of 18 years, is Kahungunu and Rangitane. “I may look Maori but my nana is European. She was a migrant just like these women.”

She accepted her invitation to the event because she wanted to meet women from other cultures and, learn more about their lives. She also wants them to have closer links with tangata whenua. Monique spoke of her respect for the resilience and determination shown by the women hosting the lunch, many of whom had come from war zones.

“I thought I’d had some bad times but boy, these women have survived some dramatic situations and they’ve worked hard to come here and adapt and are doing everything they can to look after their families and give their children a better life. I take my hat off to them.”

Learning from each other

Nada Hassoun (left) and her daughters with Veronica (2nd from left) and her daughter Denys

Monique and Maureen attend the same church as Veronica Watson. She and her mother Denys have developed a supportive friendship with Nada Hassoun and her  family. They both spoke to the group about their own experiences of feeling isolated and lonely while living in other countries. “I understand what you’re up against and it makes me happy to help,” says Veronica. “And,” her mother added, “you can teach us so much.”

Imane Bander and Catherine Heaps

Those sentiments were echoed by other guests who were themselves migrants. Women like Oham Saaed, an Iraqi who migrated here with her husband and two children 23 years ago, Catherine Heaps from England  and E Tu Whānau kaimahi, Pohswan Narayan who is Malaysian.

Pohswan says she’s amazed by the progress the group has made in recent months.

“These women are brave, optimistic and determined to get the skills they need to build a great life for themselves and their families here is Aotearoa. They inspire me every day and make me proud to be their friend.”